Why Advice From Others Can Steer You Off Course

I will need to be careful how I get the message across in this blog post, because you have to understand that it is Biblical to seek advice of trustworthy and Godly people.

For instance, Proverbs 19:20 says, “Listen to counsel and accept discipline, That you may be wise the rest of your days. “

Having said that, I have learned not to blindly seek or listen to the advice of others, but to very careful about whose advice I take, because sometimes even great spiritual leaders get it wrong.

Why? Well, simply put, every person on earth is very human, and because of this, sometimes those who love God and even walk closely with Him, will give you the wrong advice because of their own belief system and experiences.

In my own life, God gave me a promise that three years later is not yet fulfilled.

I have become calm about it now, but at the time, it kind of put me in a tail spin.

I spoke to people who I should have been able to trust: leaders in the church. And don’t get me wrong: these two are trustworthy and walk closely with the Lord. If I was going to consult any human, they were the best ones I could bring the matter to.

But our journeys with the Lord are different, and so are our experiences and level of faith.

Those in high church positions may actually still be in the process of developing trust in God, while a congregation member may already have learned trust in Him.

Back to my personal story…all two of these wonderful Christian leaders), in their love and care for me, made me feel like I was crazy and that didn’t help matters, especially when the Lord kept telling me over and over again, to TRUST HIM.

Had I really took their advice to heart, it would have put me off the path God had chosen for me, because He was in the process of teaching me to trust Him.

Even though the promise has not yet been fulfilled, in the three years since He spoke it to me, I can already see the thread of His work – why He told me what He did, and the timing of it. I can see how it had to come first before He put me into the purpose I was created for; my destiny.

I now understand why I often felt mad, and that the promise seemed an impossibility. I would often question whether God had really been the one who spoke it to me, or was it Satan, or even myself?

Until He finally one day told me to choose what I will believe: either that He spoke it or not. I decided to believe it was indeed Him.

Trust me when I say that doesn’t mean it’s been peachy since then; certainly not.

But for the first year or two, I had serious trouble even believing He had made the promise in the first place: it put me in a place of torment quite often especially when things seemed to completely contrary to what He had told me.

It was so hard to trust God, especially when the advice of these two iconic, Godly people was so contrary to believing that it was indeed God Who had spoken the promise to me, not once, but twice.

From that I learned that I needed to put my trust in God alone and that sometimes, the things He told me were not to be repeated to others, or some people could not bear to hear it, or because of their own personal experiences, had their own belief system which did not allow for God Almighty making almighty promises.

It brings to mind the story of Joseph in Genesis 37, when God gave him dreams of the future, but telling of those dreams to others certainly did not help matters!

After disclosing the dream to his family, he was mocked by his father, and his brothers became jealous.

It would be easy for Joseph to have tossed the dreams from his memory, but many, many years later, those dreams came true and worked out a blessing to his family.

However, at the time, those dreams were not believed by those closest to Joseph: his own family.

And so I come to you today to share this: while it is Biblical to listen to others (because often they are right and you are wrong), or they have a fresh perspective, sometimes, sometimes, it’s better to take it to God and leave it with Him.

And keep your mouth shut until the promise has been fulfilled.

Lastly, remember this:

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” – Isaiah 55:8-9

Claire Carradice

Claire Carradice is the founder of Reset Exchange, a resource that helps people reset their minds in order to experience the fullness of life and the wonder of God.

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